Happy day after Labor Day! I hope you all had a relaxing 3-day weekend. I know I did. In part this was because my partner Gray and I just finished the process of applying the KonMari Method to our home. I’m not going to talk about the whole process much Gray covers it well in his LoveLifePractice post. What I am going to talk about is the direct effect it had on my mind and my outlook.
I was hoarder in many ways. I admit that a lot of it was out of guilt. I felt like if I got rid of something I would lose my attachment to a person, place or feeling. I look at that now and feels a little strange. I know that a movie stub doesn’t contain the essence of the person I was there with but What if I forget?
Marie Kondo has a wonderful way to sort this out. You hold the object in your hands and see if it creates a “spark of joy”, if it does you keep it. This was a bit life changing for me. I had to hold each thing and see what feeling it brought up. Was it nostalgia, fear, guilt, just a memory of a different time? If it was one of those things it was time to let it go. As it turns out, it was time to let a lot of things go.
SAYING THANK YOU AND GOODBYE TO MY THINGS
This may sound silly to some of you but it was extremely freeing for me. You know, after the initial “you want me to talk to my things” reaction. Simply, is that acknowledging that something has done its job or served it’s purpose. Thanking it and saying goodbye made it easy to let it go. In my mind I can hold onto the memory now without holding onto the object. This idea was the game changer. I literally (yes, literally not figuratively) felt lighter. I felt like I could breathe and my mind let go of ALL THE THINGS.
My therapist was thrilled. He was so happy that I could let these things go and create the space in my life to deal with the present and what was important and making me happy. He and I talked about the process and what it meant to me and what I had let go of besides just things. I get stuck in my past sometimes. Letting go of things you never imagined you could freed me from some of that past. It gave me the distance to look at it differently.
WHAT DOES IT MEAN
I am very lucky. I have an amazing partner who has created a safe space for me to work with and through my depression. He has given me the ability to figure out what it is that I am passionate about and how I can make that work. Together we created a home that is free of clutter and open to creativity.
I have figured out what I want to do. I want to help others to create that space to learn to let go of some things and realize that the memory or feeling doesn’t have to occupy physical space. I want to help people create a peaceful, joyful space in which to create and grow and live.
I am growing and learning to move past my fear. Where does this leave me? At the beginning of a scary and amazing journey. I am starting my own business. The business of helping others organize. I will keep you posted.